Friday, May 9

Stop being the Intellectual Whore!!


Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.

When a man meets a woman, the first thing that pops into his mind, be it consciously or subconsciously, is "What are the possibilities of me having sex with this woman?"

When a woman meets a man, the first thing that pops into her mind, be it consciously or subconsciously, is "Is this guy someone I'd want to have sex with, or is he good to just be friends with?" Unlike the man, women have a "bi-ladderal" system, or two ladders. One is the Good Ladder, on which all men she would like to have sex with are on, much like the man's ladder. The other ladder is the Friends Ladder, a ranking of all the guys she knows and likes as a friend, but would never have sex with. Ever. At the bottom of and between both ladders is the abyss, which if a man tries to make a ladder jump from the Friends Ladder to the Good Ladder and fails, he will likely fall into, since once a woman has a male friend who suddenly tells her he wants her, things tend to go awry quickly and they split, or the man becomes unhappy and leaves her life, via a NEXT.

According to Ladder Theory, men are attracted to a woman 60% based on looks, 30% on how easily he sleep with her, and 10% to other factors. Likewise, women are attracted to men 50% based on the man's wealth or power status, 40% on attraction (which further breaks down into subcategories, the largest of which is looks), and 10% on other factors.

One of the major tenets of Ladder Theory is the relationship known as the Intellectual Whore/Intellectual Pimp dynamic. This can also be equated with "nice guys", and should be a common observance. A man who is too "nice" and unwilling to show his dominant, sex-hungry side, will instead approach a lady as non-chalant and unthreateningly as possible, attempting to have a friendship with her to prove that he can be trusted first. This is all done with the hidden agenda of eventually confessing his feelings to her and attempting to have sex with her. This also typically involves the man buying her gifts, giving her rides to places, voluntarily taking the short end of the stick at every occasion, and basically being a doormat, in order to prove that he is "a good guy," but generally it translates to the woman as "weak." Then when he eventually comes forward with his feelings towards her, known as a ladder jump, it typically takes the woman by surprise and she rejects his offer. It is termed a ladder jump because usually the man tries to work his way up her Friends Ladder first, and from the top of the ladder, tries to "jump" across to her Good Ladder. But as stated earlier, by this point he has likely been seen as weak and a doormat, not to mention if there was any sexual tension in their first encounter, it's likely worn off by the time the ladder jump comes around. What typically happens next is that the IW will hold on to their friendship, since it's all he has - which is settling for less in his mind - and he typically rises back up to the top of the IP's Friends Ladder, and then stays there, delusionally content, and/or waiting for his next opportunity to try another Ladder Jump.

The man, in this scenario is known as an intellectual whore, or "IW". An intellectual whore is a man who readily pays a woman with his emotional support so that he may receive physical returns, which again, is hardly ever successful.

The woman in this scenario is referred to as an intellectual pimp, but in most cases, the woman is not aware that she is the man's intellectual pimp, or "IP". This is due to the man's concealing of his true desires with her. There are cases of course, where the woman realizes exactly what's going on from the beginning, and chooses to abuse her power as an IP, and this woman is known as a ninja bitch, or "NB".

The Solution

Most IPs will spend their time talking and being friends with the IW, while he receives no physical return from her, besides perhaps being the occasional cuddle bitch, while she runs off to have her sex with an Outlaw Biker or "OB" instead, and then vent her frustrations over him to the IW. She will have sex with this OB repeatedly, and then always air her stories and frustrations over his emotional distance to the IW. The IW will typically respond with, "well he's a jerk," "you deserve someone better," and likewise supplicating statements.

Ladder Theory purports that to avoid IWism and to begin attracting women in an effective manner, one must avoid falling into the IW/IP trap by avoiding supplication, acting disinterested in women he is actually interested in, becoming an OB, or getting rich.

--Source: Ladder Wiki and a chain email amongst friends.

Thursday, April 3

the return of the native

We got DC++ and interhostel LAN back. in return for this:

Birla Institute of Technology, Mesra, Ranchi
Undertaking with respect to BIT Ranchi IT Usage Policy

Whom this Document Concerns:
All Users of IT infrastructure at BIT Ranchi.
Reason for Policy
This policy outlines the responsible use of the Information Technology Infrastructure at BIT Ranchi.
Statement of Policy

All users of BIT Ranchi will be subject to the following Acceptable Use Policy

1. [Content] I shall be responsible for all use of this network. In case I own a computer and decide to connect it to BIT Ranchi network, I will be responsible for all the content on it, especially that which I make available to other users. (This provision will also apply to any computer or device for which I am responsible, and is included in the meaning of "my computer".) In case I do not own a computer but am provided some IT resources by BIT Ranchi, I will be held responsible for the content stored in the designated workspace allotted to me (examples: file storage area, web pages, stored/archived emails, on Computer Centre or Department machines).
2. [Network] I will be held responsible for all the network traffic generated by "my computer". I understand that network capacity is a limited, shared resource. I agree that physically tampering with network connections/equipments, sending disruptive signals, or making EXCESSIVE USE of network resources is strictly prohibited. Repeated offenses of this type could result in permanent disconnection of network services. I shall not share the network connection beyond my own use and will not act as a forwarder/ masquerader for anyone else.
3. [Academic Use] I understand that the IT infrastructure at BIT Ranchi is for academic use and I shall not use it for any commercial purpose or to host data services for other people or groups. Also, I shall not host or broadcast information that might harm others or may be otherwise considered objectionable or illegal as per Indian law.
4. [Identity] I shall not attempt to deceive others about my identity in electronic communications or network traffic. I will also not use BIT Ranchi IT resources to threaten, intimidate, or harass others.
5. [Privacy] I will not intrude on privacy of anyone. In particular I will not try to access computers (hacking), accounts, files, or information belonging to others without their knowledge and explicit consent.
6. [Monitoring] I understand that the IT resources provided to me are subject to monitoring, with cause, as determined through consultation with the BIT Ranchi administration, when applicable. The monitoring may include aggregate bandwidth usage to effectively manage limited IT resources as well as monitoring traffic content in response to a legal or law enforcement request to do so. I authorize BIT Ranchi administration to perform network vulnerability and port scans on my systems, as needed, for protecting the overall integrity and efficiency of BIT Ranchi network.
7. [Viruses] I shall maintain my computer on this network with current virus detection software and current updates of my operating system, and I shall attempt to keep my computer free from viruses, worms, trojans, and other similar programs.
8. [File Sharing] I shall not use the IT infrastructure to engage in any form of illegal file sharing (examples: copyrighted material, obscene material).
9. [Security] I understand that I will not take any steps that endanger the security of the BIT Ranchi network. Specifically, I will not attempt to bypass firewalls and access rules in place. This includes not setting up servers of any kind (examples: web, mail, proxy, DC++ Hubs) or any other software that are visible to the world outside the BIT Ranchi campus without concern of network team. In critical situations, BIT Ranchi authorities reserve the right to disconnect any device or disable any account if it believed that either is involved in compromising the information security of BIT Ranchi.
10. [Settings] I understand that I will no change or tamper any settings for the network setup which are done by the Network team.
11. [Penalties] I understand that any use of IT infrastructure at BIT Ranchi that constitutes a violation of BIT Ranchi Regulations could result in administrative or disciplinary procedures.